now I know why

men enjoy time with kids whereas women just do their jobs as jobs. childcare doesn’t change men’s life. but it does for women. especially those women who can do more than just looking after the family, who cannot accept that their life has become nothing more than a regular routine of changing nappies, cleaning and cooking, cannot make nappy change a game that their kids and them enjoyed playing.

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Having it all

What is this about “having it all”? don’t men “have it all”? read the following links to know what i am talking about.

link1. http://www.guardian.co.uk/culture/2009/nov/01/gaby-hinsliff-quits-working-motherhood

I do not like her wording it “having it all” means it is not “life”. Do men not have life in that case? Mind you, she is still working from home. she is doing TV shows, writing freelance, and what not. It is a wrong message she is sending out to other working women. if someone wants a convenient life, fine, that is your call. Be it,stay at home mom, in which life you  cook/clean/feed/look after your family like your mother did and in turn make your daughter wanting to be like you, meaning, cook/clean/feed/look after your family (and make your sons wanting to be like your father/husband who will expect their wifes to be like you, meaning cook/clean/feed/look after the family). Remember, you need a man to provide for it all. If your man is bringing good enough money and if you are happy to lead that convenient life of living on your husbands money, that is your call. (again remember Gaby earns by working from home and doing TV shows! and Gaby IS a working woman). but do not word it that “this IS life”. Why does Gaby call herself as “usedtobesomebody”? Is she nobody now? Again, remember, she is still working, earning and still that somebody, Gaby Hinsliff.

link2.  http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2009/nov/08/parents-work-life-balance

link3. http://www.guardian.co.uk/theobserver/2009/nov/08/kathryn-flett-having-it-all-mothers

and now this, link4  http://www.guardian.co.uk/education/2009/nov/13/women-career-mothers-girls-schools 
(via usedtobesomebody)

The head teacher Jill Berry has to understand that there IS no need to be a perfect woman, I mean there is no need to take care of home “mainly” by women. Men can share.  Is there a term “perfect man” and are men struggling to be be perfect, struggling to find balance between work and family life? If they can have it all, why can’t we, women and why not just leave it to the girls to decide what they want in their life? I do not think a school head should send out message like this.

fathers and feminists are on the same side

http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2009/nov/08/parents-work-life-balance

related link:
http://www.guardian.co.uk/theobserver/2009/nov/08/kathryn-flett-having-it-all-mothers

3) A single child is (sort of) manageable alongside a career, but a second child is not simply twice the work of one but, confusingly, about three times as much – even allowing for the fact that you’ll be much better at it

4) And nobody tells you that.