The normal self

Most of her posts are must-reads. This one is a must-must-read. Do not miss the analogy given by neodawn in his second comment.

Possessiveness is a very wrong emotion. Never teach your child to be possessive. Never be proud of your “lover/husband/wife/friend/child/parent/sibling” being so possessive about you. It is wrong to be proud of someoneelse feeling possessive about you and it is wrong to feel possessive. see the red flag.